How do you build a happy and lasting marriage? Renowned social scientist and Harvard professor Arthur Brooks joins his wife, Ester, to share their marriage story publicly for the first time. Drawing on decades of research, faith, and experience, they reflect on the joys, trials, and lessons of more than 35 years together.

Arthur's website: https://arthurbrooks.com

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00:00:00 - Intro
00:03:28 - Harvard Study of Adult Development
00:07:08 - Arthur and Ester’s Love Story
00:10:45 - Arthur’s Mystical Experience
00:13:03 - Discovery vs Invention
00:16:46 - Why is love at first sight so rare now?
00:20:25 - Life and Love as a Startup
00:28:13 - Making Sense of Their Messy Past
00:39:51 - Is sleeping together before marriage a big deal?
00:49:46 - Crazy rosary experience...
00:54:26 - Understanding the Church
01:01:06 - How Ester’s heart changed
01:03:48 - Different personalities and happiness
01:07:52 - Conflict in relationships
01:11:46 - What men get wrong
01:13:36 - Submission
01:18:49 - What men and women need:
01:35:34 - Four Secrets to Save Almost Any Marriage
01:39:14 - Sexual Intimacy
01:54:16 - How to respond to crazy fads and panics
02:01:14 - Why people resist family life:
02:05:40 - Ester as a spiritual guide
02:18:31 - Death of an Idol
02:23:41 - Power of daily Mass