Why do some mothers struggle to bond with their babies and slip into depression? What can you do when the romance has faded and your significant other withdraws every time you try to express your needs or connect? And why does premarital sex often sabotage long-term love?

Surprisingly, these issues share the same root and the same solution. Enter Adam Lane Smith, former therapist, relationship coach, and pioneer in applying attachment theory to everyday relationships. His mission is to help one billion people become securely attached, starting with you.

Adam explains why so many people have trouble forming deep, lasting bonds. He breaks down the biochemical forces that drive connection, with oxytocin and vasopressin as the key players, and shows you how to work with them for stronger relationships. He also helps you develop compassion for those whose childhood wounds make intimacy difficult and gives practical steps to rekindle passion and trust. 

Watch this episode for eye-opening insights that will take all your relationships to the next level.

Adam’s website: https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=lilarose&utm_medium=affiliate
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:02:29 - Adam’s background
00:09:09 - What is Attachment Theory?
00:13:18 - ProLife Providers
00:13:52 - Goal of 1 Billion People
00:18:10 - Why this recent struggle for younger generations?
00:24:54 - Seven Weeks Coffee
00:25:58 - 1950’s wasn’t “traditional”
00:31:48 - Women’s oxytocin gets suppressed
00:37:54 - Covenant Eyes
00:38:58 - What can women do for a stable household?
00:41:37 - When women have to be protective forces:
00:42:53 - Erica Komisar and Daycare
00:45:40 - Attachment and Relationships
00:52:14 - Oxytocin Pipeline
00:57:04 - Do men want safety?
01:01:26 - A Modern View of Marriage
01:05:42 - What about “non-typical” men and women?
01:11:43 - Who is the problem?
01:16:29 - Avoidant Husbands
01:24:36 - How women can help their avoidant husband:
01:28:23 - Be Measurable
01:29:32 - Gas Station Hotdogs
01:31:09 - The Menu
01:36:13 - Dating vs Courtship
01:45:33 - What is courting?
01:48:29 - What is most helpful for women in dating?
01:56:25 - The Secret Community of Secure People