Many men and women today feel existentially isolated and alone, even if they're surrounded by loving people. Attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith has been seeing this problem grow for years, and today he shares 4 steps to build vibrant, secure attachment with ourselves, others, and God to bring meaning and joy back to our lives.

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-Link to attachment Quiz: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic?utm_source=lilarose&utm_content=08%2F26

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00:00:18 - Intro
00:01:08 - Understanding Lindsay Clancy trial
00:03:22 - Women on the edge of snapping:
00:08:44 - Modern suburbia is deadly
00:12:38 - How generational trauma affects our genes:
00:14:15 - Why women don’t want children:
00:17:08 - How much of this is “real”?
00:19:55 - Fight, Flight, or FREEZE
00:23:33 - A development in attachment science: Quiet Disorganized
00:28:49 - How Adam started noticing this pattern:
00:33:05 - What are the signs of Quiet Disorganized?
00:38:13 - How attachment affects faith and spirituality
00:39:38 - What the eastern world can teach us:
00:44:08 - How this affects our relationship with the Holy Spirit
00:47:01 - The first step toward the solution:
00:50:15 - Scrupulosity, Anxious Attachment, and Psychology
00:52:40 - How to diagnose Quiet Disorganized
00:58:26 - How to enjoy motherhood:
01:00:03 - Secure attachment is necessary to know God’s love
01:01:52 - What’s consistent about every conversion story:
01:03:21 - 4 steps for becoming secure:
01:06:52 - 12 Steps and Attachment
01:09:33 - The first step to healing, simplified:
01:13:55 - What the Garden of Eden teaches us:
01:19:18 - Most Christians pray like a voicemail:
01:21:12 - How Prayer Can Heal our Attachment [clip]
01:25:25 - How long does this process take?
01:27:17 - An example of healing: